?Newsflash?: the only person responsible for making you happy is you.
Job hopping won’t solve the problem. You’ll be challenged with the same problems in every job until you realize you’re the common denominator.
Your jerk boss isn’t the reason you’re unhappy.
Your pain in the butt dog that pees on your floor even though you let him outside 9.5x already, isn’t making you unhappy. ??*stepping off my soapbox*
It’s not external stuff that determines our happiness levels. Sure, it’s a factor; but more than anything it’s on us to guard our emotions and let ourselves determine our happiness levels.
To live our richest life, we have to take FULL responsibility for our happiness and emotions.
Happiness is an inside job.
Now, I know there’s a lot of people that agree with me and think- “Great Whitney, but how do I increase my happiness when life is kicking my ass right now?” I hear ya. Here’s what I find works.
STOP EXPECTING PEOPLE TO ACT A CERTAIN WAY
This is huge. When get upset because someone was a jerk and acted in a way that you deem inappropriate, you are setting yourself up for failure. First, who are you to determine how people should and shouldn’t behave? And second, do you really want to let Susan from accounting ruin your day because she ate your lunch from the fridge?
At the end of the day, when you have expectations of how people should act— you’re setting yourself up for failure.
PRACTICE FEELINGS OF GRATITUDE
Instead of writing an uninspiring list of things you appreciate, write one thing down and allow yourself to feel how happy that person, object, animal, job, etc. make you feel.
If that is still challenging for you, think of one person you love and imagine life without them. Imagining life without them makes you appreciate having them with you now.
LIFE IS SHORT
Anytime I have a bad day, I stop myself and say out loud, life is short, if this were my last day, is this how I’d like to be feeling? A little morbid, I know. But you guys, life is so short. This petty shit, isn’t worth being upset over.
WATCH THE DOCUMENTARY HAPPY
It’s on @netflix and gives me exactly the perspective shift I need to get outside of myself.